Breaking patterns with dignity

When you find yourself in a rut, repeating the same patterns in your work or relationships, it means you haven’t yet learned the underlying emotional lesson. We all will keep repeating the same problems. Until we respond differently we won’t be able to heal the past to move on.

If you find yourself having the same kinds of problems with your boss, or attracting the same kind of relationship, maybe the underlying problem stems back to your first relationships - with your parents, siblings or even your first teachers.

With reiki healing, we don’t have to do a lot of verbal soul-searching. When you come for a reiki treatment, we allow the universal energy to come and heal the situation, transcending and transforming all guilt, shame, worry, and strengthening us from within. The healing comes from making the emotional connections yourself. This might come in the days after your treatment, in the form of some kind of insight. You could read an article, or receive an email. You might read about a similar situation in a book or see a film and it triggers something for you. It could happen that a friend comes to you with a similar problem and you end up healing yourself by giving advice. Seemingly out of nowhere you have received the knowledge you need to heal yourself.

For example, I came across these tips on integrity and the power of dignity from Julian Short, author of A Model for Living. This guide is particularly useful for the workplace, where sometimes “being nice” can be seen as a weakness, but keeping your cool when times are stressful can be the key to being a good leader:You are what you do, not what you think or feel says Julian Short:

- Even if you feel under threat, act towards others as if you believe they like you. They probably do, so you will get the best from them. If they don’t like you, you will boost your self-esteem by acting well.

- Remember that an angry response is always underpinned by fear. This will help you feel sorry for the irate person and act well.

- If you are angry, state your point of view but never attack the self-esteem of the other person by trying to belittle them.

- When you are hurt, act as an equal not a victim; never try to make someone feel guilty, or that they should be looking after you.

- Be as kind as possible as often as possible. You don’t have to be perfect: a general trend in your behaviour is enough to garner respect.

- In tough times, people generally want to connect. Now is the time to form allegiances.

Rejuvination and abundance

It is too tempting to write a blog about eggs today so instead let’s talk about rebirth and rejuvenation. This Easter break is the ideal time to clear out clutter, spring clean and generally sort your life out. Relationships will feel better now that Venus is coming out of retrograde, and it’s a good time to clear the air and connect with family. I’ve decided to book myself onto a 3 week intensive Ayurvedic Nutrition course in Vrindavan, one of the most spiritual places in India. It is a certified course so once completed I will be able to nurture myself with food, and help others to heal through diet and Ayurvedic Nutrition techniques. The ancient Yogis claimed that the proper diet can give us all long life and radiant beauty, well into old age.

The Brighton Festival is worth a look this year as cutting-edge artist Anish Kapoor is curating. His amazing works will be on display in public spaces around the city in May. As well as the usual free street performances, artist open houses, there’s comedy, theatre and music to choose from. I am heading to Brighton Natural Health Centre to take full advantage of their £7 for 7 days of yoga throughout the festival. The Centre offers Ashtanga, Iyengar and Hatha yoga as well as Dance/Body work classes.

Those of you who have attended one of my workshops, will know I am a fan of the Orin/Daben books (Creating Money, Soul Love, Opening to Channel and Spiritual Growth). I have been listening to a brand new meditation on Abundance which is very powerful. You can download it for free from their website. At 5pm UK time on April 19 join me and Orin and Daben, wherever you are in the world for a global meditation on Abundance. Working together in this way will have a profound effect on you, those close to you, your community and the world.

I am delighted to let you know that my Radio Show - Rehab - is back on the air this month, on Brighton’s Radio Reverb. I will be playing new music as well as talking about spiritual matters. You can listen online or on 97.2FM in the Brighton area. I’ll let you know nearer the time when I am on air…join the Rehab Radio Show on Myspace. And for those of you interested in my new Brighton Reiki CD of music to self-heal and give reiki to….this will be available in June 2009.